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Shahid Kapoor Says Perfect Marriage Is a Myth, Emphasizes Individuality and Parenting Lessons

By TOI Lifestyle Desk

Shahid Kapoor said that a healthy marriage does not require perfection, but rather the ability to respect each other’s differences and move forward together. In a conversation with entrepreneur and podcaster Raj Shamani on the *Figuring Out* podcast, the actor explained that partners should recognise they are on separate tracks and that being together should not erase either person’s individual journey. He added that his wife, Mira Rajput, has the final say on matters concerning their children, while he leads decisions about cars, a division that helps avoid unnecessary disagreements.

Kapoor also reflected on his childhood after his parents, actors Pankaj Kapur and Neelima Azeem, separated when he was about three. He said he grew up feeling the absence of both parents together and was largely raised by his mother. The emotional gap influenced his view of family relationships and his approach to fatherhood. He believes parents should be mindful of the emotional environment they create for their children rather than assuming the children will understand everything adults go through.

When asked about the values he hopes his children, Misha and Zain, will learn, Kapoor said he wants them to become confident individuals who make their own choices. He stresses the importance of allowing children to make mistakes while providing support and guidance. He also wants them to understand the value of what they have, to develop gratitude, and to realise that achievements should come through their own efforts. Although he would prefer they pursue careers outside the film industry, he acknowledges that the final decision will be theirs.

Kapoor’s discussion also touched on his own career insecurities and the pressure to prove himself in the entertainment industry. He said that over time he has learned to view failures differently and focus on growth rather than letting difficult experiences define him.

The podcast, published on January 23, 2025, brought together Kapoor’s thoughts on relationships, childhood, professional struggles and fatherhood, underscoring that a successful life does not require perfection in every role. Instead, understanding oneself, respecting others and allowing room for growth can matter far more than trying to meet an ideal.